tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32295516858828519152024-03-18T21:32:58.556-07:00Mission to New Zealandministry. madness. musings.Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.comBlogger158125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-8965207697052402912012-09-08T07:54:00.000-07:002012-09-08T07:54:10.255-07:00"the end"<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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This post is the end. It is also the beginning. It is the end of almost a month of living apart from Rich. He moved to Bloomington, Illinois last month to begin teaching, but the kids and I have been on our own back here in Pennsylvania waiting on a few tiny logistical details such as <i>where would we all live in Illinois? </i>It has taken this entire time to sort out living arrangements, nail down a moving truck, pack up the house, get our current home on the market, etc.... But now, finally, with 9 weeks left until the next Sealy is due to be born, our family is at the end of this season of separation and poised at the very beginning of a new life together in the midwest. We're moving into a rental house this coming week and then hopefully over the month or two that follow, our house here will sell and we'll find a house out there to buy. The Lord will do all things well.<br />
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This post is the end of my occasional daydreams about how much more efficiently and smoothly I could run a household without the interference - pardon me, I meant INPUT - of my husband. This month has been an exhausting and eye-opening experience of what my life would be like without Richard and I have grown immensely in a mature appreciation of not only what he <i>does for us</i> but more importantly <i>who he is to us. </i>Yes, he takes out the trash and cuts the grass and squashes bugs and frees me to go to the grocery store without dragging three highly needy individuals along - but truly I have not missed him primarily because of his usefulness. I've missed him as my best friend, companion, soul mate and sounding board. I've missed him as the father to my children. I've missed the <i>person of</i> Richard - and so have the kids (particularly Bernadette. Joseph, I think, has mostly forgotten that such a person as "Papa" exists). But I confess I have also missed his usefulness. Tremendously. It turns out he is far more useful than I was giving him credit for. Praise be to God.<br />
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This post is also the final, last, true end of our Mission to New Zealand. We are beginning our next mission - after a three month mission-recovery-respite, the Lord has finally moved all the pieces and placed them just so and by next week the whole family will be inserted into this next chapter in our communal life. I call this mission "The Mission of Everyday Life" and actually, we are <i>all </i>living out a mission of the same title, all the time, in New Zealand, or in America, or anywhere else.<br />
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Since this post marks the end of our Mission to New Zealand, it seems apparent to me that it is now time to end this blog as well. I have lots of mixed feelings about signing off, but with two moves on the horizon, a fourth baby coming in a few weeks and the part-time research project that Rich and I are collaborating on, I'm not sure the months to come will hold many hours for blogging anyway. And if I should change my mind down the line, I already have set up my next blog. A few months before leaving NZ, I played around and set up my post-New Zealand blog. Once life settles down a bit, if I feel prompted to begin blogging again, here's where you'll find me:<br />
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Many thanks to all who have read along with us and who have supported and cared and encouraged us. May the Lord bless you with His reckless generosity, may He give you every needed grace in His perfect timing and may your hearts find deep and abiding peace in Him.<br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-89308083332554798392012-08-17T04:27:00.000-07:002012-08-17T04:27:03.719-07:00quinnIn college I had a very close friend named Eileen. She now has two little boys roughly the ages of my two girls, and just a few months ago she had a beautiful baby girl and named her Quinn.<br />
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Quinn started showing all the same symptoms Joseph showed at a few weeks old. The doctors were investigating to see if the diagnosis of Alagille Syndrome was appropriate for Quinn.<br />
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This morning Eileen wrote to tell me that Alagille Syndrome has been ruled out - Quinn has been diagnosed with a very rare disorder that causes blindness, deafness, retardation and then death by age 2. There are no treatments.<br />
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Everyone has prayed so much for Joseph and he has escaped nearly every upsetting prediction the doctors have laid out for him. Please pray for little Quinn, for Eileen and her husband, and for Quinn's two brothers. Pray that she may see miracles from our good God as Joseph has, and pray for every needed grace for this family. Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-11878744016516621942012-08-11T18:08:00.003-07:002012-08-11T18:37:11.150-07:00details (and a mini-tantrum)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The Sealy household is a flurry of activity again! Rich is preparing to start teaching high school theology in Illinois. We're acquiring his professional wardrobe, and packing, packing, packing. I think I could practically be a professional packer by now. Our house goes up for sale on Monday and there have been some logistical boxes to tick (but more than that, I've been grappling with the emotional side of letting go). However, the Lord has blessed us in <i>so many ways</i> this past week, that I am in a season of feeling nearly overwhelmed by two truths: that <i>we exist for the praise of His glory</i> and that <i>He has done all things well.</i><br />
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After six months of frustrating and stressful "job searching" we felt no closer to finding a position that suited Rich's interests and gifts than we had at the beginning. Then two jobs that Rich had <i>not</i> applied for (or even known existed) dropped out of the clear blue Provident sky right into his humbled, grateful lap. A good friend who had been Rich's best man at our wedding called to say that a teaching position had opened at his school - the only catch was that school started ten days from the date of the call and the school is about an eight hour drive from our current home.<br />
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We had to make a decision quickly, without seeing the town to which we'd move or the environment in which Rich would work. Kind of like our discernment about New Zealand....(only I think Fr Michael had given us <u>fourteen</u> days to decide, not ten - and Rich had seen <i>Lord of the Rings </i>like a zillion times). Rich and I have been to Illinois once. For about 48 hours. That said, we both loved it. I'm 110% pro-Midwest. It snows there, you know.<br />
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<i>bernadette celebrated her 3rd birthday on July 29</i></div>
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Speaking of Fr Michael, for two years he never stopped telling Rich that he should <i>teach</i> after our mission years. It turns out that guy really knew what he was talking about! <br />
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Then just tonight Rich accepted an (unexpected) invitation to do part-time, home-based research for some additional income. As the father of a growing family, he was <i>very</i> grateful for this opportunity. (We buy so much milk every week that I wonder if it would be more economical to purchase a cow). We are stunned and astonished by the Lord's Providence and determined more than ever to radically abandon ourselves to <i>trusting Him in <u>all things</u>. </i><br />
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So at present, life is very busy, but very good. Rich is praying that the house sells by Tuesday - or Wednesday, at the latest. I might need a few more days to accept that this house - which is like a member of the family to me - <i>is going to belong to someone else. </i>YUCK! I'm trying to be graceful and feel happy that such a sweet, cheerful little house is going to bless another family, but all I really feel is <i>NO fair! It's mine! Mine, mine, mine, MIIIIINE!!!!</i><br />
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There are lots of transitions and adjustments and new challenges in the weeks ahead, but it's an exciting and blessed time for us. Busy as anything, a little overwhelming - but blessed - almost in a surreal way. If the fruit of an authentic blessing is increased humility, it's been a <u>very</u> humbling week! Praise the Lord.<br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-21442062201696471782012-08-07T14:59:00.000-07:002012-08-07T15:01:48.371-07:00updateThank you to all for prayers! The sought-after clarity and <i>definite</i> answer came <u>fast and furious</u> as a result of all that praying. I will post the details very soon. In the meantime, the house is going on the market this week and the family is in Transition Mode. We are hoping for the speedy sale of our house in Pennsylvania, a blessed house-hunting experience as we seek a new home, and for peace during these upcoming months, especially for Maria and Bernadette (who have already coped with so much change, and still have so much more to come). Can't wait to share the bigger picture!Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-73359703400524275142012-08-04T18:58:00.001-07:002012-08-05T03:42:49.371-07:00it never rains but it poursIt's been a little while. Mostly things have been "the same" - which, though deliciously tranquil, does not offer much material for the sake of blogging. But then, this week happened..... Now, if all was left up to me, I would probably have waited until <i>next week</i> to have written about <i>this week</i>, but Rich expressly commanded me to write about <i>this week</i> TONIGHT because he feels incredibly in need of prayer. So, here goes!<br />
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Since I last wrote, Rich has been working as a summer handyman up at our parish. It's been a great job and a true gift of Divine Providence. He can walk to work, attend daily Mass, come home for lunch, and the job is so flexible that he can take hours off to do a Skype interview (or days off to fly to an out-of-state interview) and make up the lost time later. Given our circumstances, this flexibility has been an incredible blessing, as one might imagine.<br />
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Unfortunately, all this flexibility was not bearing fruit in the form of that desirable little perk called "a permanent career". At least not in the speedy fashion that we were wishing for. Rich feels pressure as the provider to be settled in a new job and I feel pressure as the ticking baby time bomb to be settled in a new home. I say all this - but these past two months have been a time of blessing and richness. Our basic needs have been provided for: Rich's handyman wages have covered our mortgage, two unexpected gifts from friends have covered our groceries for the entire interlude and Joseph was granted government health coverage after being denied private coverage because of his pre-existing conditions. <i>Give us this day our daily bread</i> - shelter, food, medicine - and He <u>has</u>. What else do we truly need? We have lacked nothing necessary. To the contrary, we have been blessed with a full cup, running over. <i>The Lord is good. </i><br />
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I've spent the month learning the meaning of the words, "Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself. Sufficient for a day is its own evil." The Lord has been at work increasing my capacity to be at peace, through <i>trust and simplicity</i>, though the future is veiled and uncertain. I've spent a lot of time in prayer reflecting on how well and truly <i>different</i> are the Lord's ways from man's. See, if I was the Lord - and I called a young family to risk all their security and move across the globe as missionaries - I would want to give them an <u>amazing</u> job as soon as their mission ended <i>just to show all the doubters and naysayers a thing or two!</i> I would want to prove myself to all those who scoffed and discouraged. So, this month I've learned quite a bit about my <i>pride</i> and the Lord's <i>humility</i>.<br />
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But more than that, I've also had ample opportunity to consider what is truly <i>good</i>. It is good to have a job. It is good to have stability and security. It is good to be able to pay bills confidently. But - it is better to be a vulnerable child ever more aware of her dependence on the Father. It is better to grow in absolute trust of Him. It is better to be humbled before Him and before the eyes of men. It is better to grow in gratitude and to let go of the need to be independent of others. It is better to grow in love and amazement of Him as He tenderly cares for me - undeserving <i>me</i>. He always gives what is best - not just what is "good", but <i>best. </i>We have learned to trust that if He is not giving us a steady job, it is because He is giving us something that is ultimately better for us, in a very profound way.<br />
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After interviewing for many jobs which, for various reasons, were not a "good fit" for Rich or for our family, just this week Richard interviewed for a job - and it was unexpectedly fantastic. It is a job for which he had applied without even being very clear about some of the specifics, but he exited the interview full of hope and excitement. It is <u>very very far</u> from where we now live (though, of course, not quite as far as New Zealand) and the distance gave both of us the same fluttery nervous-excited feelings we had about New Zealand before we arrived there. Just like with New Zealand, we've heard many wonderful things about the natural beauty and down-to-earth people in this place. In fact, the job seemed perfect for Rich in every way. So we hunkered down to wait in hope and prayer for a definite offer from this amazing job.<br />
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And then, of course, jobs just started popping up all over the place. A former employer of Rich's contacted him in reference to the job search. Danielle, the missionary who preceded us in New Zealand, called to tell us about an intriguing missionary-style job just two hours from our home. [It would entail moving back into a presbytry (rectory) and I'm not sure I am <i>quite</i> ready for that again - but it did intrigue us both nevertheless.] And then today....a wonderful friend called and flat-out offered Rich a <i>fantastic</i> job - a job that is in the field to which he has long felt drawn - a job "only" eight hours away that starts in <u>ten days.</u> And we are utterly baffled. We have perhaps three days to decide.<br />
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The two jobs are <i>vastly</i> different in terms of location, ease of visiting the grandparents, salary, Catholic community, type of ministry, etc... There are many factors that have to be considered and they must be considered very, very quickly. Our emotions are all jumbled up - excitement, relief, stress, nervousness, fear, joy, gratitude, uncertainty, thanksgiving - which makes it even harder to discern clearly and prudently in a short space of time. So Rich asked me to write tonight and ask for prayer - the readers of this blog have interceded for us so many times over the course of our mission. We have felt and seen the power of those prayers repeatedly. The youth of New Zealand saw the fruit of those prayers with their very eyes and had their own faith bolstered - because of which, I believe that you who interceded for us were actually an active partner in our missionary efforts, witnessing to and impacting those young people and showing them how <i>real and near</i> the Lord is - and how faithfully He answers fervent prayer. I'm amazed to think that now those young people are part of this great team of intercessors as well! We feel confident that in this last great hurdle of our mission, the prayers of all those who have invested in our mission will again please the Lord and release much-needed graces upon us.<br />
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Once all is settled for certain, I will happily post more specific details. (If it takes more than a few days, be assured it is prudence, not laziness!) Until then, Rich and I say <i>thank you</i> once again (in advance this time) for your prayers. Our own faith in the power of prayer has grown so strong through the intercession that has been offered on our behalf by our blog readers over these last few years. What a gift you have given us!<br />
<i><br /></i>Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-2722665428486391532012-07-11T17:31:00.003-07:002012-07-11T17:41:18.214-07:00another day, another Catholic celebrity<span style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;">Today the family drove over to a Benedictine Monastery for the solemn profession of vows of a very dear friend, Fr. Jean-Luc. While he was yet a diocesan priest in 2007, he baptized newborn Maria - and shortly after entering the Benedictine Novitiate, he was godfather to newborn Bernadette in 2009. He's <i>very</i> special to us and so Rich and I were excited that we returned from New Zealand in time to witness this incredible occasion in his life. After the (LONG - but very beautiful) ceremony, there was a luncheon. Our children were <i>so thrilled</i> to have a few more hours of sitting quietly in a formal setting after the hours spent in church that morning - but at least this time there were cheese, crackers, pasta, roast beef and chocolate cake. Oh, and A.C. - let me not forget the blessed A.C.! (Air con, Kiwis, air con - we're talking temps in the low 30s and a jam-packed church building just baking away in the summer sunshine). </span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;">Seated at the table directly adjacent to ours was a beautiful family of eleven, with nine children ranging in age from maybe six months through sixteen years (my guesswork). The two eldest boys actually did not fit around the table with their family and the poor guys got stuck sitting with us. Meanwhile Joseph liked the looks of their two youngest sisters so much that he spent much of the luncheon unsteadily tottering over to visit the other table. Because of the chaos associated with feeding, quieting and keeping track of the twelve children between us (and the cups they shattered and the spills they created) we parents smiled and spoke a few words, but did not get much beyond that. On the drive home, Fr Jean-Luc called to thank us for coming and mentioned that the family of eleven was none other than that of a very prominent Catholic author and publisher whose work Rich has long admired. We were stunned. Richard joked to me that if he had known, he would have tried to get my book publishing deal brokered on the spot so that he could quit his job search. But even more amazing was that during the luncheon, a different, but even more famous and prominent Catholic author and speaker (from Down Under, by the way!) called Rich on our cell phone. Richard had interned for this man over eleven years ago and has not kept in touch since, but they caught up for a few minutes today by this man's own initiative.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;">None of this has anything </span><i style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;">directly</i><span style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;"> to do with our prayers for employment. But in one week's time, the Lord has brought no less than THREE very powerful Catholics shoulder-to-shoulder with us (a Bishop and two renowned authors) - which we are choosing to interpret as His reassuring sign that His<i> own</i> power and influence are just as near - and nearer. I feel like He is just showing us the many friends He has in high places and the many ways He can work to bring people together without any anxiety or effort on our lowly part. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;">I was laughing the other night as I scanned the week's readings and saw Jesus' instructions, "The harvest is abundant, but the laborers few, so pray the Master of the harvest to send laborers for the harvest." I feel like Rich is jumping up and down with his hand in the air shouting, "Pick me, Lord! Pick me! Send me to the harvest!! Pick me!" And He seems to be reassuring us this week that He does have a corner of the vineyard all picked out for Rich, but that there is still a season of waiting (and growing in trust) for us to complete before the harvest season of work is fully upon us. So - we continue our efforts ("efforts" of grace alone) in that endeavor. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: garamond, serif;">Incidentally, it's not all R&R anymore either - Rich is beginning two part-time jobs this week so that we will have this little luxurious thing called "income"- but this is still a time of relative calm before all the drama of moving and shouldering heavier responsibilities. We are <u>very</u> grateful for these two jobs! Thank you to any and all who joined us in praying for some work for Richard as we wait on The Call.</span><br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-43408927744616521142012-07-07T13:34:00.002-07:002012-07-07T18:03:42.023-07:00in the confessionalToday Rich headed out to Confession. He wanted to go to Confession at our own parish earlier that day, but I had been invited out to a beautiful luncheon and had left him with no car, three kids and the shoe-leather-express option - in 100 degree weather. So he decided to wait until this afternoon and drive to another parish for Penance. But when he set out, he passed a different, closer parish and realized that they had Reconciliation taking place at that very moment so he turned into their parking lot instead.<br />
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He made his Confession to a priest he had never seen before, spilling the beans on all his least gorgeous behavior from the past two weeks. He also needed a bit of counsel about how to live this job-less limbo that has been getting him a little down in the dumps, so he gave a nutshell version of the past two months or so. The priest asked for a few more details - and said something like, "I know a Bishop who is looking to fill a job in his Diocese".....so Rich told him a little more about his experience and what kind of work he is looking for. But - it turns out that what this priest <i>actually </i>said was "I <i>am </i>a Bishop who is looking to fill a job in <i>my</i> Diocese," which of course, makes all the difference in the world!<br />
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Rich came home looking like he had seen a ghost - the Holy Ghost, to be precise. Neither of us has the faintest clue if any of this will actually pan out into "Our Future" - but the most important detail is that the Lord has once again flexed His mighty muscles in our presence and completely reassured us that He is perfectly capable of providing for our most urgent need - <i>out of thin air</i> - at any moment of <u>His choosing</u> (and without any help from us, thank you very much). Seriously. Not only was no resume or application sent to this <i>prospective employer</i>, BUT rather than showcasing all his best qualities to the "interviewer" he confessed all his worst ones! Only the Lord works in this way, upside down from the way the world works. Or rather, right side up....so high are His ways above our ways.<br />
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(And the second most important lesson from this is that Confession is <i>awesome! </i>RUN to your nearest Confessional! Who knows what the Lord has in store for you there!<i>) </i><br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-19116888265964626762012-07-06T10:01:00.004-07:002012-07-06T10:12:56.132-07:00in the waiting room<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">The Divine Physician is running late - <i>again.</i></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">The point is that Rich and I <i>are</i> still waiting and we are feeling a little....antsy. We are still at peace and hopeful and all the rest (blah, blah, blah) but we're just <u>restless</u>. Rich has applied for openings at some really exciting jobs in some really exciting places - from Oregon to Maine, from Texas to Missouri, from Florida to Kansas (Kiwis - looking these places up on a map could keep you busy for while! Americans, maybe you too! [Or should I be ashamed to admit that it did for me????]) Rich is very excited about the prospect of possibly moving to places with New-Zealand-like climates (or warmer!) and New-Zealand-like beach access. I, on the other hand, will die if I don't see snow this winter. And I have successfully brain-washed Maria into believing the same. I know snow means nothing to my husband, but I'm astonished that he has failed to grasp this simple truth by which I choose to live: the hotter the weather, the bigger the bugs. It does not seem to fill him with an ecstasy of relief that the biggest insects in our house right now are the teensiest little ants you ever did see. After living with enormous cockroaches for two years, I don't even squish these adorable little ants. I just smile at them kindly and wish them well in their quest for crumbs and point them gently in the direction of the highchair.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">I don't know how to articulate that it is possible to feel truly peaceful and at the same time restless, except to say that we are not so much <i>worried</i> about our future as we are <i>eager to get cracking. </i>I think poor<i> </i>Richard has had his fill of domestic life - and "domestic life" is ready to put down an anchor and settle into some serious routines. Floating and drifting was fun for a while, but we both feel a little directionless now. We're eager to know what it is that the Lord has planned here. We're quite sure that He has a plan, but we're begging for a little teensy tiny hint. I sort of knew before we left New Zealand that the Lord was going to leave us guessing until the Very Last Minute (because that was His preferred pattern over the entire mission period). I must have said it a million times. But I thought that the Very Last Minute was going to occur somewhere around the third of June. It's more than a month past my definition of "The Very Last Minute", so I can only presume that He is stretching my understanding of the concept of "Last Minute" - in addition to some other bits that needed to be stretched.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">Nothing is wasted with God. He is always extravagant but never wasteful. Therefore, this extended period of rest and uncertainty has a purpose. Many purposes, I presume. So the mission in which we're currently immersed is trying to figure out what He's teaching us here - and to be good pupils. I think until this week I had been looking at this season as a such a fleeting and transitory one that it could just be lived any old way. This week it's starting to dawn on me that there is no such thing as a snippet of time (no matter how short) that ought to be lived just any old way. Each day is a gift, and each day needs to be lived as a gift and given back to the Giver. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #d0e0e3;">If I could possibly set aside my impatience to feel some sort of "stability and security" take hold, the gift of these days would not be so lost on me. I am happy. I mean <i>seriously joyful -</i> all day long, just filled with deep and satisfying J-O-Y over very small things. Having so much more time with Rich has been so awesome for us as a married couple. Having so much more time in general has been awesome for me as a mother. I feel like a calmer, more attentive and more intentional parent than I have for two years, and I'm enjoying the littlest things about my children more. For example, every day after Mass this week, Bernadette has asked me to drive past Fr. Friedhelm's house. She never requested this favor the whole time we lived in New Zealand. Now she asks every day. It's driving Maria <i>insane </i>as she repeatedly explains that Fr. Friedhelm does not live in Pennsylvania. Bernadette is unconvinced, even by Maria's most exasperated, animated, frustrated tirades about airplanes and international moves. This conversation replays every morning during the 3 minute drive home, and it cracks me up every time. I don;t even participate, I just listen. I actually think Bernadette <i>knows</i> that Fr. Friedhelm is in New Zealand - I think she is just enjoying her ability to calmly drive Maria so berserk. And each night, Joseph wakes up from a sound sleep somewhere between the hours of 11pm and 2am and he happily begins singing <span style="font-size: x-large;"><b>ALLELUIA!!!!</b> </span>as <b><u>loudly</u></b> and as<i> joyfully</i> as he possibly can - for about a half hour. If he goes on too long, Rich and I just push his crib out of our bedroom and into the kitchen, but I'm laughing the whole way. And then there are the sounds of the (American) birds singing loudly first thing upon waking and the sounds of the (American) bugs singing loudly as the last thing I hear before sleeping. It's all the little things that I'm enjoying so much. And when <i>bugs</i> make you this happy, you know you're in pretty good mental space. </span><br />
<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-90696389868071594202012-06-26T17:19:00.001-07:002012-06-26T17:19:52.629-07:00house guestsKiwis,<br />
Today Richard and I practically hosted a New Zealand reunion! Danielle and Krista (two of our missionary forerunners) spent the afternoon visiting, reminiscing about New Zealand, catching up and watching Fr. Michael's farewell video. We were having so much fun that they were three hours late for their next appointment. They both loved the miniature Kiwi accents from Maria and Bernadette (I hadn't even known that Bernadette had acquired an accent; I thought she just spoke in Baby Chipmunk). It was a really special afternoon and it was only after they left that I realized that I had actually never "met" Krista prior to today. (Her face is so familiar - and I heard SO MUCH about her from the girls' group for two whole years.....) One thing we all agreed on emphatically - you are very special people and we all miss you - and your beaches - very much. Hopefully next time we have a New Zealand reunion, some authentic Kiwis can be present as well!Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-32847119104479883672012-06-22T16:34:00.001-07:002012-06-22T18:48:13.600-07:00unexpected changes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<i>After many months of uncertainty and waiting on the Lord, we thought that the biggest elements of our everyday life had finally solidified. We thought we knew what kind of work Rich would be doing and in what area of the country we would be living. He had been unofficially selected for a position in a thriving Diocese in the Midwest, and was looking forward to being involved in lots of awesome branches of ministry including those pertaining to youth, young adults, engaged and married couples<span style="background-color: white;">. Tonight we learned that the position has fallen through, due to extraordinary circumstances. We are pretty shaken and deeply disappointed. But in this too, the Lord is at work. There is nothing to do but cling to Him in trust. What follows is the post I had been working on this afternoon, hours before we got the sobering call this evening..... </span></i><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Our afternoons have been full of splashing in the little wading pool, swinging on the porch, visiting parks & playgrounds - and refereeing whose turn it is to hold the kitten. But by 6:30 each evening, all three kids are tucked in bed and Rich and I get to spend truly peaceful evenings together. It's been like a series of little honeymoons. For the past six years he has been out doing ministry anywhere from three to five nights a week - this little interlude of quiet evenings at home is such a treat. We're playing board games and card games - and <i>talking</i> - and just being together in happy silence. Our marriage feels especially blessed and rejuvenated. We're loving having our porch swing again, and our tranquil little neighborhood overlooking a beautiful cemetery. We're amazed by how the fireflies have proliferated in our absence - and how the stinkbugs have disappeared. It's lovely. </span><br />
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<i>even lovelier glittering with fireflies at 9pm</i></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Pennsylvania itself has never felt like "home" to me. New York, for all that I resist much of what defines it, is still the place that just "feels" like home. My goodness, I would never want to live there ever again - it's just that things <i>make sense </i>to me in NY. I know how to get places, all the little towns are like old friends and even the way that people drive makes sense. (Richard insists otherwise, but I think that New Yorkers' hyper-aggressive, horn-obsessed driving is just regular, ho-hum, <u>normal</u> driving.) Since I left NY, I've spent four years in Rhode Island, two in Ohio, four in Pennsylvania and two in New Zealand. My husband insists that New Zealand is <i>his</i> "true homeland" but I'm still searching for mine. Maybe it's waiting for me in (<i>the Midwest)</i>. I am so much more cornfield than I am Times Square - and I have liked every single person from the Midwest that I've ever met. But it's a little sad now to think about leaving the pieces of P.A. that <i>are</i> very home-like. Our house here is the most perfect little "Kelly home" that I've ever lived in. My friends here really feel like <i>home </i>to me - I didn't appreciate that fully until just this month<i>. </i>Our kids have grandparents, aunts, uncles - <i>family who love them</i> - here. </span></div>
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<i>a purple bedroom, a new kitten, and the entire Little House series:</i></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">I think a week ago, Rich and I were in a bit of a sadder place about leaving all that we have just so recently regained. These last few days have brought a lot of peace and hope. We're much more focused now on the possibilities and adventures that await us, rather than on that which we will leave behind. We still will leave with some pain and difficulty of course, but also with deep conviction that we are following the plan - <i>the very</i> <i>good plan -</i> that the Lord has laid out for us. Rich is <u>so</u> enthused about this new job and I love to see that. We are both a bit anxious about where we will live and about how the whole moving thing is going to go (selling our house, living apart temporarily, finding a new neighborhood and house that is a good "fit" for us, helping the kids - Maria in particular - deal with more loss, more transition, more instability). But He knows what He is about. And we trust in that. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><i>I can do nothing other now than reiterate those last two thoughts from earlier today, even though our circumstances have changed so dramatically in just a few hours. He knows what He is about. And we trust in that. For the past two years in particular we have dealt time and again with hard news, uncertainty, challenges and devastating surprises. And He has seen us through all of it. We have done best when we have had nothing but Him to cling to. So I am - in some true but odd sense - glad for this. Or at least at peace with it. I'm not properly "glad" - far from it, actually. But I only want to be where He wants us. If He wants us in that job after all, He will work it out and we will be absolutely thrilled. If not, He has something else that He is asking of us, and we will embrace that. Please pray for us to remain steady and unwavering in trust. And obviously for work - the Lord has provided for a little while more of job-searching time, but due to Joseph's medical issues and our unborn baby, we are hoping to be insured as soon as possible. </i></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span>Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-76489866777677879022012-06-15T16:41:00.003-07:002012-06-15T17:10:26.228-07:00another week closer to normal<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<i>the squirrel who used to eat all our birdseed</i></div>
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I'm not caught up on email yet. I've only made two non-essential phone calls so far. But otherwise, I really thought that we had more or less come to a place of some sort of stability and calm. But then on Monday we completely forgot about Joseph's doctor appointment and on Tuesday we actually <i>missed our plane</i> as we set out to Richard's <i>most important </i>interview. Those of you who know me will know that I do not miss doctor appointments or <u>airplanes</u>. Ever. So - perhaps - we are still a lot more inside-out and upside-down than we realize. I'm starting to feel that the excuse is wearing thin though.<br />
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The airplane thing was really something straight out of a movie (and not the boring kind of movie where everything works out awesome for the hero). After a series of hiccups and tangles that delivered us to Pittsburgh International Airport only an hour prior to takeoff, we got stuck in endless lines both for check-in and security. We cleared security only twenty minutes before takeoff and sprinted to our gate. I've not done much sprinting in maternity jeans during any of my previous pregnancies and I don't recommend it. Those pants just did <i>not</i> want to run as fast as I did. So Rich galloped ahead, lugging all four bags while I tried my darndest to keep up. I had Joseph in the Ergo on my back and the diaper bag bouncing wildly over my shoulder (the girls were staying with their grandparents). I'm pregnant enough to be a little short of breath while just rocking calmly on my porch swing - this sprinting business left me gasping for air and clutching frantically to my falling-down jeans, which were being shoved off by the ergonomically-designed waist panel of my back-pack style baby carrier. Joseph - who <i>had been</i> sleeping- was bobbing and crashing manically in the carrier and about every four strides I had to <i>create</i> a free hand to firmly yank my sliding elastic waistband back up as high as possible. "<i>Jesus, I trust in You!"</i> I was frantically praying. We arrived at the gate juuuuuuuuust in time to see that airplane backing slowly away from us.<br />
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I think Richard may have said something like, "Rats!" I couldn't hear him that well over the wheezing gasps of my own breath and the blood throbbing in my head and the nononononononononoNO! screaming in my soul. I did noticed that my ever-calm husband was covered in sweat and looked like he might be sick in a moment. Joseph starting laughing and kicking, wanting his "pony" to return to that crazy-fun gallop. Neither parent spoke - to him or to each other - for quite some time. And the pony wouldn't try even just a trot - not even hours later. <br />
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<i>Kiwis, I do apologize!</i></div>
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We're waiting now on a final decision and have a lot of praying to do. Richard's keeping busy with some projects around the house. I'm blissfully engaged in repainting old furniture (a beloved hobby I have not indulged in two years) and the kids are enjoying having their very own grass in which to get bitten by their very own ticks (Joseph, today). Maria is struggling very much with the prospect of another move, and if there was only one thing I would ask prayers for, it would be for her peace of heart.<br />
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<i>power-blasting the back porch</i></div>
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<i>picnics in our front yard</i></div>
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<i>finally got the kitchen (the last frontier) organized!</i></div>
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<i>slowly adjusting to the tastes of America</i></div>
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Last night was one full week since our plane touched down in Pittsburgh. The week was a fast-moving, stressful blur, but it was a super-productive one. The house is (mostly) in order. The kids are (mostly) sleeping. We now have internet, phone, utilities, bank accounts, drivers' licenses, temporary health insurance <i>and - </i>as of tomorrow morning, a car. In other words, we're in a much more relaxed place today than we were seven days ago. Actually, I'm amazed that it only took seven days to get to this place. We owe a huge thank you to Rich's parents for all the work they did getting our house ready for us before we even arrived. They gave us an enormous head start and saved us days and days of cleaning and hauling furniture. We also owe much thanks to my mother, who flew to meet us at LAX and offered our girls a timely distraction, enabling Rich and I to catch up on sleep, catch two peaceful flights and gather luggage.<br />
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<i>helping to get everything in order</i></div>
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Thanks to all for the <i>prayers</i> and email/FB <i>words of encouragement</i> as we went through the craziest and most intense days of transition. Rich and I feel really great now about how things are unfolding. We're having a lot of fun together shaping our life here and the Lord is showing us that His Providence is overseeing all. For example, this week I contacted a real estate agent (who I selected randomly based on her cool website and the fact that she looked "nice" from her photo). As we chatted on the phone, it turned out that she has been supporting an American missionary <i>in New Zealand</i> over the past few years! There have been so many of these unlikely coincidences that we have a real peace that the Lord is at work as we patch together the life we are going to lead now that we are home. We continue to put the pieces together (in a much more peaceful fashion now than a few days ago) and will give updates as the biggest pieces fall into place!<br />
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<i>not 100% unpacked and organized, but getting closer every day</i></div>
<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-22538239669980613562012-06-03T09:46:00.000-07:002012-06-03T09:59:22.046-07:00can we go back to new zealand?The short answer to the question "How are things going so far?" is this: <br />
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Hell.<br />
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Well, the house - the four room house - is in absolute disarray and chaos and I can't seem to make any palpable progress because of priorities like groceries and diaper changes and locating underwear for four people amidst mountains of stuff. All three kids have been crying and/or awake every single night until 2 am (or just beyond) and Richard and I are averaging about five or six hours of sleep daily.<br />
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Maria, who already lives at a level of existence intensely elevated from most of humankind, is now absolutely overwrought with stimulation and is having mood swings akin to a very hyperactively ecstatic Dr Jekyll and a horribly angry, mean and tearful Mr Hyde.<br />
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Bernadette is crying all night begging me to sleep with her, eating barely enough to keep a hummingbird alive, vomiting dry heaves - and "hating" everything in America ("hate" - being a word Bernadette may have used three times in her life prior to landing in America - has now become a word she uses at least five times hourly.) Before she even laid eyes on our house, I told her that we were going to drive over to see it and she informed me, "I hate our house." It's been like that.<br />
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We still have not found a good minivan to buy. Up until today we have been living the Amish dream, totally technologically cut off from the world, without internet or phone. We've been mooching a car and our meals off of Rich's parents. I could go on, but I think the picture emerges fairly clearly and that the reader will understand why Richard and I keep giving each other looks that say, "In five minutes, I may just give up entirely."<br />
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The travel was actually easier than these first days have been. Fr. Michael drove us to Auckland and there was none of the usual drama associated with taking three small children on a fairly long drive. We arrived with the perfect amount of time to check-in, check our five allotted bags, plus the one that was going to cost $115 to check except that the lady decided not to charge us. Then with our stroller and six carry-ons (some of which nearly doubled the allotted 7 kg weight maximum) we said a sad goodbye to Fr. Michael, ate a leisurely dinner, passed through "security" without a hitch (including the random selection of only our two lightest carry-ons for a weight check). Within an hour we boarded, took off and got started on the eleven-plus hour flight. Everyone was happy. The girls watched <i>Up</i> <i>(</i>but refused to wear headphones and <i>hear</i> the movie as well). A meal came, which neither ate - the first of many, many meals that Bernadette would not eat - she has not really eaten a normal meal since we had lunch in Mt Maunganui the day we left). Then they slept - all three of them. For about three hours. Maybe less.<br />
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Joseph woke up first and began screaming. I mean, the kid was <i>screaming.</i> The whole plane had been asleep and he woke everyone up. Including, of course, his sisters. Nothing would calm him - not even the man behind him angrily taking the Lord's name in vain. He screamed on and on and on - for hours. It was hideous. He finally settled and slept shortly before we began our descent, but the rest of us landed at LAX exhausted. By the time we checked into our hotel I'd been awake for 30 straight hours. The girls were doing really well, despite their lack of rest, until dinnertime. They happily went to the pool with my mother and splashed merrily for over an hour. But neither one ate a bite of dinner and finally I had to remove them, crying, from the hotel restaurant. We bathed them and put them to bed, expecting to get some serious sleep, but all three simultaneously awoke at midnight. There was no coaxing or commanding them to sleep. Lights, crayons, pretzels, grape juice, ESPN, coloring books....at 2 am they were ready to give that whole sleep thing another go. And except for the first night home, when they slept the whole night through and had to be woken for <i>lunch</i> at 11:30 am, they have repeated this pattern every night since. Usually with more crying and sometimes with vomit.<br />
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Richard has a couple of interviews coming up over the next two weeks. I honestly don't know how he is going to pull it off. If I had to interview for a job this week, they'd probably take one look at me and make me take a drug test before the interview even began. Once I started talking they'd probably make me take another. But all will be well. Somehow. Please pray for us!</div>
<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-86838089601824079072012-05-29T00:42:00.004-07:002012-05-29T01:01:36.721-07:00done and dusted<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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But the point is that we are all done packing. Except for one little teeny tiny load of laundry currently washing, plus the things we are all wearing to bed and toiletries. I don't know where any of that will go in the morning since all the bags are packed to their 23 kg and 7 kg capacities, respectively - but I'm sure we'll have a fresh perspective on that dilemma after a good night's rest. The women in my new mothers group here told me that the Kiwi airport staff is a bit soft and if some of my bags are overweight and I can squeeze out a few tears and clutch my pregnant belly tragically, everything will be just fine. I'm banking on it. In fact, our entire airport strategy consists of Richard quietly melting off into the crowd while I approach the check-in desk in a shirt clinging to my just-showing "with-child" belly, with 1 year old Joseph in the Ergo on my back, nearly three year old Bernadette in the stroller, newly five year old Maria holding my hand, and bags heaped behind me. At this point we imagine/hope desperately for a great horde of Traveller-In-Need-Of-Assistance Staff swooping in from every direction, anxious to collect all my bags, rush me through security and permit the kids and me to board ahead of every other passenger - all because I will be surrounded by so great a cloud of children. We don't have a back-up plan.<br />
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It's 7:19 pm, the kids are all in bed, I just packed the last bag and Richard vacuumed the carpets. We're done. We have some friends coming over in ten minutes to celebrate our last evening Down Under. Last night Richard and I went for dinner at a little Italian place with Fr Michael (who is heading off to Rome next month to study at the Angelicum for the next two years). It was a perfect night out. Today: lots of goodbyes, lots of packing, lots of bustling about, lots of children crying - but it still has not really hit me that <i>we are leaving tomorrow morning. </i>Even when Richard asked me just right now to take a break from the blog to trim his beard and we couldn't find any scissors other than child safety scissors because I packed in dribs and drabs over the past two weeks and now have no idea in what bag any given item might be located so I had to trim his beard with that ridiculous instrument.....even <i>then</i> it did not really sink in (at all) that everything we own is packed and <i>we are leaving tomorrow. </i>After two years and four days, we are leaving New Zealand and returning to the States. I just cannot take it in. And there is no time to try to take it in right now because our friends are arriving and Richard's beard is still all over the kitchen floor. Until then, please pray for safe travels and for the kids to feel less panicky about the plane ride than they were feeling all day today. Thank you to all! This is not the last blog post, but it is the last post of missiontonewzealand written <i>in New Zealand. </i> I'll write again in America!</div>
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I think the plane trip on Wednesday should do just the trick. </div>Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-29885409004979789482012-05-24T00:27:00.001-07:002012-05-24T01:24:47.728-07:00mars & venus in transitionLast night was the very last night of New Zealand ministry for Rich and me. He met one last time with "A Few Good Men" and I with "Girls and God". We each had an excellent "last hurrah" with our respective groups.<br />
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I had hoped to do something really special for those girls for our final gathering. <i>Instead, they did something really special for me.</i> Over homemade chocolate-raspberry cake, they each gave their own little "toast" to me - each girl spoke for a few minutes about what part of our time together has been most special or most fruitful for her personally. They went deep. I was awed - and a bit sheepish. They all laid hands on me and prayed. We talked and exchanged mutual assurances of gratitude, respect, affection and enduring friendship. It was incredible. It was emotional. It was very, very, beautiful.<br />
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The boys group took Rich to the paintball field and shot him repeatedly.<br />
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It's amazing that there are actually people in the world who claim there is no substantial difference between the two genders.<br />
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Now that we are done with ministry, these last five days are just party, party, party. And packing. And errands. And phone calls to airlines and banks and hotels. Actually, everything is upside down. Joseph finished yesterday with his five day frenzy of full-afternoon hospital IV outings. Desperate to entertain him hygienically amidst the hordes of tiny pneumonia and croup patients, I gave him my sanitized cell phone to play with. He was delighted - and happily changed my phone settings so that my outgoing texts can now only be written in Chinese characters. Other than acquiring a language barrier, things went well on the ward. They'll retest him tomorrow to see if he's cured. Meanwhile, our house is like a train depot - so many comings and goings. Ladies traipse in and out to match wallpaper samples and window treatments. Burly men (covered in what my daughters call "scary tattoos") are measuring and replacing windows. Carpenters are banging and smashing walls as they update the office soundproofing on the other side. But the truth is - I like it. (No sarcasm.) It feels like closure. It creates a definite mood; there is a palpable feeling of hustle and bustle that puts me in just the right mood to clean and pack efficiently and <i>get the heck out of here. </i><br />
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The kids are a bit overwhelmed by it all. Particularly Maria. The other two have some built-in protection called "oblivion". But Maria really gets the total upheaval - and does not have the sense of how temporary it is. Even though Rich and I <i>do</i> know it's just temporary, we're a bit overwhelmed too. We aren't <u>crying</u> quite as much as Maria, but we have had some very funny interludes concerning the packing process. When it comes to transition, I like to dive in, plan, organize, get busy, do stuff. Rich likes to stick his head way down deep in the sand and pretend that no change is coming until the change is actually physically taking place. He'd rather I not start packing <i>anything</i> until a few hours before we have to leave for the airport. I'd like to have finished packing last week. Right now I'm making piles, cleaning things and stuffing suitcases. At the very same time, Rich is taking things <i>out</i> of my piles, dirtying things I have just cleaned and negotiating the return of items from perfectly packed suitcases. I wish I'd thought ahead and asked some of the guys to invite Rich to go <i>out</i> with them (a lot) over this past week. The next time I have to move, someone remind me to do that.<br />
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For the past six days he has been asking me to reveal the whereabouts of <i>Moo, Baa, La La La. </i>I keep telling him that it's packed already.<br />
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"But it is Joseph's favorite book!"<br />
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"No love, <i>Toilet Time for Girls</i> is Joseph's favorite book" (it has that working <i>flush</i> button)<br />
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"Well, it's his <u>second</u> favorite book."<br />
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I think actually <i>Baby Signs for Mealtime</i> is Joseph's second favorite book. I say so. I also mention that I'm almost positive that the animal book with the lift-the-flap windows is third for him - but that really, he is quite happy to bite the pages of <i>any </i>board<i> </i>book - indiscriminately. I think <i>Moo, Baa, La La La </i>might be <i>Richard's </i>favorite book (to read to Joseph). In fact, I'm pretty sure of it.<br />
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Today I finally realized I'd have no peace until I surrendered <i>Moo, Baa, La La La. </i>In exchange for possession of this Sandra Boynton classic <i>and</i> three free hours tomorrow to go play board games with the guys, Rich has solemnly pledged no more interference <i>whatsoever</i> in my packing ritual. He earnestly promised to set no more limits, make no comments and demand nothing back. We shook on it. Then he read Joseph the <i>Moo</i> book. Twice. He triumphantly informed me that Joseph had laughed <u>on every page.</u> I hadn't noticed - I'd been busy, quietly packing up all of Rich's underwear.<br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-24201325391872399382012-05-19T16:48:00.001-07:002012-05-19T16:54:12.019-07:00living on the edge<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The last two weeks we had in America before moving to New Zealand were literally chock-full of drama, complications and intense near-disasters. It looks like our last two weeks in New Zealand will be no different. After a very hectic week, yesterday afternoon little Joseph had to spend four hours on the Tauranga Hospital Children's Ward on an IV drip. He had had a bad reaction that morning to a medication (something prescribed this week for a UTI) and he needed to be assessed and given an alternate treatment for the bacteria. The only alternate drug needs to be given intravenously, so he was discharged with the line still in. Each day this week we will have to take him into hospital for a dose of antibiotics so that hopefully he will be healthy in ten days' time for departure. The nurse did ask if our plane tickets are insured <i>just in case</i>..... but we're not even going to entertain that possibility.<br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-64436312683353894232012-05-17T12:11:00.001-07:002012-05-17T12:44:24.642-07:00last birthday<table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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After 2 years of birthdays abroad, the Sealy Family celebrated its last.</div>
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On May 16, Maria turned 5. </div>
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-33136485739748728652012-05-16T17:28:00.003-07:002012-05-20T11:21:18.644-07:00facebook & the culture war (part two)<i>Earlier today I wrote a post on why I personally abstain from having a Facebook account. Now here's Part Two of that previous post - here are my thoughts on using Facebook fruitfully.</i><br />
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Off the top of my head, I think there is one basic principle a Christian can bear in mind when communicating on Facebook: Be <i>wise as serpents</i> and <i>gentle as doves</i>. I'm going to say "Facebook" a lot from here on out, but in using that particular example, I include social media like blogs, websites and other forums in which Christians are creating media (whether they realize they are doing so or not).<br />
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Being <i>wise as serpents </i>has more implications than I can tackle in this small space. In part it means thinking through what I intend to accomplish with my Facebook page. One approach is to use this media form to provide inspiration and encouragement and fellowship for fellow believers. That's awesome. The virtual world needs that. In my Facebooking days, I benefitted from pages such as these. If my intention, on the other hand, is to try to reach out beyond my fellow believers, a FB page consisting only of beautiful moral posts and deep quotes may be largely ignored. If my intent is to reach that wider audience, it may be more fruitful to create a dynamic page with broad appeal, a personal page, a page to which a wide circle of friends is naturally attracted. In this case, consider the manner in which peers use Facebook. Ask: Who is my intended audience? In other words, who are my friends? Who is actually seeing my Facebook? What are they most interested in? What do they write about? How can I most effectively engage them, attract their interest, spark conversation or thought? What kind of wholesome images and articles would <i>they</i> <i>like</i>? The answers to these questions will vary depending on my own age and the age of my Facebook friends. It will vary according to my personality and the personalities & beliefs of my friends. But chances are that my friends primarily come to my Facebook to learn about and connect with <i>me -</i> therefore,<i> </i>making myself accessible and human on my Facebook <i>increases</i> the chances that others will read my page when I post links and status updates that express my faith and morals. Facebook is not primarily a tool for evangelization - it is primarily a tool for connecting human beings. By that I mean that most people, when they sign in to Facebook, are seeking human connection, not ideology. That's not a bad primary purpose. We have to understand the purpose and power of the tool in our hands. We have to "speak the language" of those to whom we are trying to bring the Gospel. Many people do <i>not </i>speak the richly nuanced language of Church documents, Scripture passages and gorgeous religious art. How can I engage <i>those</i> people in a way that they can "hear" - in such a way that they will <i>want</i> to listen, to look, to click the link? That's not an easy question, but it's not impossible to answer either. Spending a few hours really looking at the Facebook accounts of those we wish to reach with the Gospel will provide some helpful clues. Ditto for scanning the Facebook accounts of Christians who are evangelizing well through their own Facebook accounts. The more "normal" and natural we are, the more people will take us seriously and hear us out. The more fanatical and "out there" we seem to be, the more we will be written off and the more unable to exert an influence on the general culture around us.<br />
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Being <i>gentle as doves</i> means that when we use media in the culture war, we do so <i>in the spirit of Christ. </i>We can't defend the King's honor or the Kingdom's in a way that inherently dishonors either. I can't urge others to obey the King by disobeying Him myself. There are two blogs I have regretfully unsubscribed from in the past six months - both are created by <i>brilliant</i> writers <i>ingeniously</i> defending the faith....but doing so with such frequent and intense uncharity that I was completely disappointed and uninspired. I don't see how a Christian blog that defends the <u>teachings</u> of Christ while violating the <u>spirit</u> of Christ (through intentional insults, barbed sarcasm, self righteous judgments and unkindness) is actually a Christian blog at all. It seems to me a Pharisee's blog, urging others to obey strict laws while ignoring the Spirit that those laws serve. The same would go for uncharitable Facebook dialogue. <i> I have enough uncharitable thoughts of my own to battle without having them fed from media sources meant to strengthen me in my Christian journey.</i> Some people will protest that rants and cutting sarcasm are just about keeping things "real". Maybe. Maybe "<i>real lukewarm</i>". Or "<i>real mediocre</i>". But not real Christianity. Uncharity gives scandal and confirms for unbelievers those negative stereotypes they've heard about Christians. It hardens hearts and creates anger. It feeds self-righteousness and destroys humility. Christians who wish to fight for the Lord must strive for ever-greater discipline, virtue and self-control. We must become perfect in using the Ultimate Strategy of the Ultimate Chief General; we must become adept at adopting the tactic which is most effective and powerful: Love. Charity. We must 'adopt' it because it certainly doesn't seem to bubble up naturally from within us! This does not mean that we never take a firm stance or use strong language. Both are often necessary. But there is an enormous difference between <i>boldly stating a shocking truth in unyielding language </i>and engaging in the nasty mud-slinging hostility that marks much of the political and religious conflict that takes place on Facebook.<br />
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Jesus's most important, most central, most crucial teachings are not about health care or religious freedom or marriage. Those are <i>very very</i> important, but they are <i>not</i> the overarching essential truths for which He lived and died so as to teach us. They are these:<br />
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I could go on, but the point is that living these tenets is more important - and harder - than winning arguments and politics. In Jesus' day, those who were urging perfect universal orthodoxy while ignoring the points above got slammed with the whole <i>brood of vipers </i>thing. Ouch. It's not either-or, it's both-and. I need to vigorously defend the truths and morals being attacked or destroyed in the culture <i>while at the same time not violating any of the above points. </i>Man, is that hard. Nearly impossible. Sometimes I seriously just want to give up altogether because of how much I stink at it. But God's power is made perfect in my weakness. His grace is enough. </div>
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Which brings me to my last (and longest) point. We do have to know our weaknesses. We do have to discern wisely <i>where</i> we serve best, what we are most suited for. There is a war going on, but we are not all Navy Seals, Special Forces. Some of us are just best at driving the trucks of food rations. Some are sewing tents. Some are fighter pilots. Some are ground troops. Some are generals. Some are by sea and some are by air. NONE OF US IS ASSIGNED TO BE A BOMBER PILOT. <b>ALL</b> of us are wounded badly and <b>ALL</b> of us are tending to the wounded.</div>
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This brings me back to my personal decision to avoid the Facebook front. I'm not gifted for it. In fact, I'm really bad at it. I'm better at hand-to-hand combat. I have much better emotional intelligence face-to-face. I'm both choleric and melancholic (the two most intense personalities) <i>and</i> a writer. Once I try to fight these fights in writing, I know no other way but to dive in with all my intensity, handling the issue at hand as directly, clearly, thoroughly, efficiently and idealistically as possible. It's too much. I'm far gentler and more effective in person. I need to see the other person's face. I need to hear their tone of voice and I need them to hear and see mine. In human interactions, it's far more prudent and efficient to bide time - to be more <i>indirect</i> - to be even a little vague and then gently build to the specifics. It's also necessary to know when to drop it. I seem unable to do so through faceless media. I need the cues of the human body. That's a simple truth I have come to see about myself. </div>
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On the other hand, I know many people who are gifted at going gently and slowly through the process, even over media, but who perhaps struggle to make their thoughts clear - either through a lack of formation and understanding - or through the inability to communicate with clarity. Perhaps they leave the other person more confused and muddled then they were prior to the discussion. We need to know our strengths and weakness - and in which situations we tend to succeed, verses where we tend to fail. Obviously, on the spot, each of us must do our best to give a reason for our hope, despite whatever weakness we know ourselves to have. Once I've seen or heard something that is <i>seriously</i> blasphemous or immoral, my silence is assent and I must speak. Nevertheless, if I know I tend to flub things up on Facebook, it makes no sense to go courting those situations. </div>
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Besides knowing my own strengths and weaknesses, I think it's essential to recognize the possibilities and limitations of Facebook as a tool for winning hearts or saving souls. The soldier need not pour everything into a skirmish that doesn't contribute much to the war. In this war, most victories are won face-to face, person-to-person, in the flesh. Most victories are the fruit of real friendship and testimony and prayer and timely conversations held in private - away from the noise and confusion of battle. In contrast, Facebook skirmishes are often fought very publically between parties who have no ability or intention of actually listening to each other. There is <i>nothing </i>an atheist can write on Facebook, no article he can link to, no argument he can offer, that for the slightest moment will open my heart to the idea that there is not a good God. <i>None. </i>He might as well use Facebook to try to convince me not to love and serve my children. I <b>know</b> God to be true, good and beautiful - worthy of my love - despite never having seen Him - in the same way that I know each child of mine to be good and beautiful and worthy of my love - and I know that to be true from the womb, even before the child is first laid in my arms and beheld by my eyes. The atheist's heart and mind are equally as closed to my arguments as I am to his. There is nothing I will say that is likely to make him question his most basic assumptions about the universe. There is very little I can say that resonates with the the atheist's faith in empiricism, his measure of all things - just as there is nothing in his arguments that resonates with my experiential knowledge of ultimate goodness - my measure of all things. We do not speak a common language. But we still ought to speak. Often. Respectfully. Trying to lisp words the other comprehends. And we must understand and accept the most likely outcome of our dialogue, and the limits of our given forum, or else we shall both be very frustrated indeed. </div>
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Defending the faith on Facebook is the equivalent sometimes of trying to fight against something like guerilla warfare. It's very hard to make any real progress, but we can keep from losing the ground that is still in our possession. On Facebook, we are <i>not</i> going to beat the other army directly in any given battle, but we may influence a whole lot of "undecideds" who are passively watching these battles unfold. If we fight with honor and skill and grace, there may be some neutrals who decide not to join the other army - maybe they consider being our quiet allies - maybe they even start thinking about actively fighting alongside us.<br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-37219404128382900932012-05-16T12:17:00.004-07:002012-05-16T17:44:17.467-07:00"ardently anti-facebook" (part one)Catie left a comment after the last post asking me to elaborate on <u>why</u> I am "ardently anti-Facebook". Catie is one of my dearest friends in the world, a sincere and gentle soul. Yet I refuse to be Facebook friends with her. Why <i>is</i> it that when my sweet friend Catie wonders about how old Kelly is doing, why - <i>why</i> - must I put her through all the bother of having to call or email? Why I can't I make her life - <i>everyone's </i>life - so much easier and just GET ON FACEBOOK?????<br />
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Well, firstly, when I say that I am ardently anti-Facebook, it is not a blanket condemnation of the act of using Facebook. It means that I have come to realize that Facebook is very much <i>not for me. </i>However, I fully believe that Facebook is <i>the primary place</i> that the culture wars are being played out amongst those in their tweens, teens, twenties and even beyond. <b>As Pope John Paul II so brilliantly stated, "If the Church holds back from the culture, the Gospel itself will fall silent." </b>Christians <i>must</i> be on Facebook, giving the Gospel a voice and standing up for truth on these front lines of the culture war. But not <u>every Christian</u> is called to this front - there are <i>plenty</i> of other fronts in the war - too many - and we are each gifted uniquely and given different marching orders from the Commander-in-Chief. More on this in a moment.<br />
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I first discerned that Facebook was not for me because I couldn't handle all the rough language and blood on the front lines. I cancelled my Facebook account because I literally could not sign in without being assaulted by the profanity, crude language, vulgar posts, and abrasive status updates of my "friends" and my friends' friends. In 33 years, I have never become desensitized to profanity or potty language and both deeply bother me. I'd become upset by the deeply offensive, shockingly rude, aggressively disrespectful and utterly immature posts - otherwise polite people will freely write things on Facebook that they would <i>never </i>say in person. My relationships were damaged from reading harshly stated opinions about those things which I hold most sacred. Also I literally have OCD - other people could read these things perhaps and move on with their day. I cannot. I obsess. For days. I once forgot to feed my girls breakfast because I was so deeply disturbed by something I had read on Facebook. It was not until I gave the kids lunch that they informed me I had never fed them breakfast. That's a red flag. A big one.<br />
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Facebook also created too many awkward situations for me - unwanted friend requests, the process of "unfriending" and the subsequent attempt by others to be "refriended". How is one to protect one's privacy, make discerning choices about who should be kept in touch with via FB, and do so with sensitivity and charity? It seemed nearly impossible. Furthermore, FB does not actually in any way fulfill my social needs. I love Catie. Dearly. Yet I'm not terribly interested in what time Catie woke up or what Catie ate for breakfast. I want to know what Catie <i>thought about </i>while she ate breakfast; I want to know what is truly troubling her and what it giving her greatest joy lately. That's what makes me feel socially fulfilled. That's not usually the stuff of Facebook posts. Obviously. It wouldn't be appropriate on Facebook where all your friends and mere acquaintances can read it. (That sort of thing is much better reserved for your own personal blog where friends, acquaintances <i><u>and complete strangers </u></i>can access it.) When I was on Facebook, I had more "active" relationships, but overall, these interactions were increasingly shallow and meaningless and unsatisfying to me. Since leaving Facebook, I have less contact with others but it's much more meaningful, which is for me far more fulfilling. Also the people who only wanted to keep in touch with me if it was very easy have dropped me altogether - and that is actually a good thing, I think.<br />
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I still go on Facebook occasionally through Rich's account. We have given each other free access to each other's email and Facebook accounts as a protection to our marriage. I did see on Facebook how great a danger there could be of innocently friending an old classmate of the opposite gender and slowly creating something that threatens the marriage relationship. We are both protected by knowing the the other signs in to our accounts. I never go on FB to <i>check on</i> Richard, I generally go on because perhaps a friend is due with a baby and I check daily to see if the baby has born - or to see that first photo. (<i>This behavior is known as "Facebook Stalking")</i> Still, even with those good and innocent intentions, I find that I just end up <i>wasting too much time </i>once there. If the posts are not vulgar or offensive, they are often just plain <u>insipid</u>. It's easier for me not to have FB at all than to use it moderately and in a well-ordered fashion. Most people I know confess that they too struggle with using time on FB well. Recently we were guests in a home and our host (or hostess) (a well-balanced, mature individual) kept the computer open and on throughout our entire visit - and kept checking repeatedly to see if others had posted in response to his (or her) recent post. That is just not healthy folks!<br />
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I think I've covered most of why Facebook was not "for me". But I still have much to say about the value of Facebook and why others should use it (and use it well) if they feel so drawn. I want to write about the culture wars and how that relates to Facebook. But my children have woken for the day and I need to make the prudent decision to get out from behind this screen and feed them breakfast. At some point in the next 24 hours, when the kids are all caught up on their meals, I intend to write part two -about the "pros" of Facebook. Stay tuned.<br />
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<br />Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-74895149548528459772012-05-12T17:53:00.000-07:002012-05-12T20:24:20.922-07:00the future of the blogIn response to a query that is becoming increasingly common: yes, I do intend to continue to write after leaving New Zealand. But I don't know what form that will take. I've been back and forth about this multiple times - thinking, praying, discussing <i>ad nauseum</i> with Richard (sorry, love!)..... I love to blog because I love to write. I hate to blog because I feel very "exposed" in blogging, paranoid about how others will judge me for what I reveal about my spiritual life, my parenting, my marriage, my housekeeping, my cheesy insights into the mundane and everything else about which I write. Confession: I worry others will judge me because I find myself often judging what I read in blogs. I think that Jesus told us so often <i>not to judge</i> because well, we all judge. Too much. And the people who are most horrified at the "judgmental-ness" of others are usually <i>exceedingly</i> judgmental individuals. Really, Jesus didn't waste a whole lot of time preaching about rare sins; he focused on the areas that are common to man. I think I've met only three people in my entire life who were not sometimes severely judgmental. Two of them were younger than five years old. So despite the fact that I too often judge, I hypocritically and pridefully have a paranoid fear of <i>being judged. </i>The Lord has told me that this is not an acceptable reason for stopping the blog. He seems to think that it would be far better for me to work hard on stopping the judging.<br />
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A while back I started playing with the idea of a new <a href="http://www.tinyheroicmoments.blogspot.co.nz/" target="_blank">blog</a>. I wasn't intending to start keeping two blogs simultaneously, I was just experimenting with the design and possible focus of a post-New Zealand blogging project. I had settled on the idea of writing about <i>applying</i> what I had learned over these two years, but in the mission of everyday life. If you check out the first post, you will understand the Lord's sense of humor. Days after I finalized the direction of this new blog and published an experimental first post, we learned that actually the Lord might <i>not</i> be sending us back to the life we already knew. So much for most of what I had written. Nevertheless, I may still pursue the theme, but I'm not certain yet.<br />
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What I am certain of is this: on this current site I will chronicle the wrap-up of the mission, which includes all the closing activities in New Zealand, the return journey, the settling-in process Stateside, the details of our new life (or our old life, as the case may be). I will (at least) occasionally update the blog with bits of news about our family life (for all our friends in New Zealand, as I have been doing for these past two years for our friends in the US). Since I am not only "non-Facebook" but ardently "anti-Facebook", I've already been informed by multiple individuals that this is the only fair compromise. I may start work on that new blog, unified by the <i>tiny heroic moments</i> theme. Or I may scrap that and try blogging from a different angle (if so, I will publish the new address here). Or I may discern that the Lord is calling me to steward my writing elsewhere. I've been working here and there on other writing projects. At the urging of my parents and in-laws, I've worked extensively on a book about our mission trip which includes details I didn't or couldn't include on the blog. I've also put some time into a children's book about our mission years written from Maria's perspective (because other than<i> Little House</i> books and <i>Charlotte's Web</i>, I'm having a hard time finding "not-stupid" chapter books written for a child<i> at her comprehension level.</i>) In time, when things settle down, I'll figure out what kind of writing is most feasible and appropriate. For now, there are many pressing matters to deal with and they alone constitute the material of my thoughts and written words. I'm grateful and humbled by how many people in the States and in New Zealand have encouraged me to keep writing. I assume most of those individuals are not judging me - at least not too harshly. (Do any of you happen to keep a blog about the mission of being nonjudgmental?)Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-14531889032798963582012-05-12T01:21:00.001-07:002012-05-12T02:13:14.663-07:00crazy days<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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We're back to the crazy days. They feel so familiar. This is <i>exactly</i> what May 2010 felt like. I guess there's simply no way around the stress of an international move, whether you're coming or going. True, this time there is a lot less packing, but there are now more children to inhibit the packing process. There's an equal amount of cleaning. (No, wait, there's more. There are more children making things dirty faster than I can clean. And I wasn't pregnant last time.) Also there are more people who want to say <u>special</u> goodbyes since this time it is not "<i>see you in two years</i>!" but rather "<i>see you in heaven</i>!" And there are just as many baffled customer service representatives on the phone. This week I had to call our electric company in the States to have the power turned back on in our Pennsylvanian house. The woman who had the misfortune of picking up my call asked (routinely) for the address of my house, for my SSN, and for my telephone number. I don't have a telephone number. At least not one that is going to fit into the designated spaces on her computer screen. When I explained that I was calling from New Zealand and did not have an American telephone number yet, the phone went silent....and then the inevitable "Can you hold for a moment.....(<i>while I go get a manager...because lady, <b><span style="font-size: large;">this</span></b> <u>just doesn't happen in my normal workday</u> and <span style="font-size: large;"><b>THERE IS NO FIELD FOR CALLING FROM NEW ZEALAND ON MY COMPUTERIZED FORM!!!!!</b>)</span>" </i> </div>
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Just like exactly two years ago this time, I am <i>cleaning. </i>I am <i>throwing things away. </i>I am driving to St. Vincent de Paul's....<i>a lot. </i>I'm wiping down board books and laundering tutus and making mountainous piles of items that will have to fit somehow into the twelve bags with which we are permitted to fly. My planner is crammed with deadlines and lists and reminders. My mind is spinning and my shoulders always seem to be hunched up very tight together. </div>
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And just like two years ago, I have no idea what will happen after the plane lands. In fact, I think two years ago I had a better of idea of what would happen after our plane landed in Auckland than I currently know about what will happen after our plane lands in Pittsburgh. That's one thing that I thought would be so <i>different</i> on the return trip. I thought we'd know exactly what to expect for the return voyage - no surprises. For these past two years, I thought that when the mission was over we were <i><u><b>going back</b></u></i>....back to what was familiar, back to what was known, back to our old life....back to the family and friends and community and home we'd missed so much all this time. But the Lord, <i>the One who makes all things new</i>, so often prefers to move us <i>forward</i>, not <i>back. </i>And it seems that there is a chance that He will indeed be moving us "forward" rather than "back". With 18 days to go until departure, I literally can't even guess at what we are "returning" <u>to</u>. On the one hand, there's a good possibility that we are indeed returning to a (mostly) familiar life. That option is always open to us. On the other hand, there is also an equally good possibility that we are going to be starting over again in a brand-new life, knowing nobody, in a city, state and <u>region</u> which neither of us has ever before laid eyes on. (Kind of like two years ago...) The Lord may give that option as well, leaving us free then to <i>choose</i>. But we don't know yet for sure. Most likely we won't know until days before we fly out of Auckland (if then!). </div>
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It feels....weird. I don't find that kind of uncertainty as easy as Richard does. I'm a planning type. I love to organize and structure things well in advance. Right now, I can make no solid plans. No doubt the Lord is teaching me a great deal by keeping me in this state of limbo. I don't normally "do" limbo. I barely know how to exist in limbo. In fact, late at night, the wheels of my brain simply spin with <i>two </i>sets of plans - one set for if we return to PA and one set of plans for if we do not. That's my limbo-resistant brain, where I live most of the time. But my heart - which I do visit occasionally - is different. Deep in my heart I trust that the Lord is simply going to make it obvious where He wants us and that He is at work even in the timing of <i>our knowledge</i> of where that is. He has a good plan, a brilliant plan, a beautiful plan. I have to keep reminding my limbo-hating brain of that. Hourly. Especially between the hours of 9pm and 11pm. </div>
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So there is a feeling of *some* stress. I think I can honestly say that Rich and I are both at peace that the Lord is going to provide job, home and community - and that He will do all things well. He has given us clear signs and we are both at peace. Nevertheless, there is an ENORMOUS mountain to climb in the near future before there is any feeling of being settled or at rest. The mountain consists of packing, and of the emotional drama of saying goodbye to people and places we've come to love. It consists of the thousand little details that must be attended to when moving. It absolutely consists of a thirteen hour flight from Auckland to LA with three very small plane-phobic children, followed by seven hours of travel on two flights the following day before we finally reach Pittsburgh. It consists of the jet lag that will attend adjusting to a sixteen hour time difference. It consists of settling ourselves and our children back into our old home on Wilson and helping them cope with a total lifestyle change. It consists of possibly packing everything back up soon thereafter, preparing the house for sale, finding a new house and then settling the children again for a second time in a very short span of time. And then...just as perhaps we find some sort of new normalcy....we'll have a baby. I think even the saints would find this mountain at least a little stressful. </div>
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So today we took a much-needed break from the stressful things and we paid a bittersweet final visit to one of our most beloved places in New Zealand. All these photos were taken today at the place we have called "Shelly Beach" (we have no idea what the locals actually call it.) Truly, photos do not do this beach justice. In these photos, you can't see the variety, abundance or perfection of the seashells. You can't see the stretches of beach where there is no sand, just layer upon layer of salty shells crunching underfoot. You can't see the tide pools teeming with starfish and crabs and snails (mostly because it was low tide when we went today). You can't see Mt. Maunganui towering immediately above you, ridiculously green, dotted with sheep and encircled at its base with fantastic trees that transform you effortlessly into your favorite character from <i>Lord of the Rings</i>. You can't feel the sea breezes or hear the lapping of the waves. You can't see the shifting colors of sea and sky, nor touch the amazing textures of the rocks. You can't explore all the secret hiding places among the rocks or hunt for the treasures they hold. You certainly can't pretend to be Ariel from the Little Mermaid, sunning yourself on one of the outermost rocks (and this is a <i>good </i>thing, as Richard's brother Jason nearly was dashed to bits by a powerful wave doing just that last year). Nevertheless,<i> this </i>is the place that we have taken the kids more times than we can count, a place we have gone on sunset dates together, a place we have taken all our visitors. It is the place where I have collected most of my beautiful seashell souvenirs and the place Rich and I have climbed enormous rocks and sat in silence to watch the water crashing all around us, feeling very close to God indeed. Our family has had so many precious memories at this beach (to say nothing of the trips to the nearby gelato store that inevitably accompany these outings). I can't think of any place in New Zealand at which I have been happier, except for the (intoxicating) Tyburn Monastery. </div>
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As usual, we had a wonderful time - but this time was also stabbingly sad. It was like saying goodbye to a really close friend - knowing that it would be a very long time before I saw it again, if I did see it again at all. For all its own charms, I'm not sure Pittsburgh has <i>anything</i> that compares to this. Not even on Wilson Avenue. </div>
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Yesterday marked the one year anniversary of the worst day of my life and Richard's. A year ago at this time, Joseph was baptized, hospitalized, received Last Rites and endured hours of agony from severe dehydration, infection and multiple failed attempts to insert an IV catheter. </div>
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AND YET, here we are, one year later, with a strong, healthy, happy little boy - despite all the shadows that crossed his path. Rich and I just want to thank God this week for answered prayers. We want to reaffirm our trust in His Providence and goodness, and recommit ourselves to abandonment to His plan, come what may, even in the times that His plans do <i>not </i>turn out to be a perfect match of our most ardent hopes. </div>
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Last night the parish gathered to say <i>Haere Ra - </i>farewell - to their American missionary family. <span style="text-align: left;">All the young boys present- and some of the men - painted a "Richard Sealy style" beard on their faces (only </span><i style="text-align: left;">they</i><span style="text-align: left;"> referred to this beard style alternately as "Rich's </span><i style="text-align: left;">Amish beard" </i><span style="text-align: left;">or as his "</span><i style="text-align: left;">Abraham Lincoln beard".) </i>The whole parish gave us a beautiful night to remember, complete with an "American" meal of hot dogs and Twinkies.<br />
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Before anything else could begin, the entire family was given t-shirts emblazoned with the words "I love New Zealand" - and we were <i>ordered</i> to don them. This was a massive "issue" for Maria, who had chosen her outfit with extreme care and was devastated to find it altered right off the bat. However, she was soon won over by the beautiful matching pink shirts that she and Bernadette received and sulked under the pew for only ten minutes. </div>
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Once we were wearing our shirts, the night alternated between deeply moving speeches, a beautiful slide show and uproarious skits. An ongoing hassle over the past two years has been the sheer volume of traffic that comes to our door on a daily basis. In each skit our co-worker Matt was dressed up as Richard (even wearing Rich's own clothing) while various characters rang "our" doorbell for various outlandish (but true!) reasons and at various outlandish (but true!) times of day. In each skit, Matt portrayed exactly what he thought Rich might be thinking when the doorbell rang <i>and </i>how Rich actually would respond to each supplicant. </div>
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The speeches were a mix of serious and silly. My favorite line from the speeches: one of the young men shared a new term he has recently coined, inspired solely by Richard's unique sense of fashion. The term is "SNandals" - short for "Suit 'N Sandals" - Rich's signature Sunday style. True, my fashion-forward husband not only wears a suit, tie and Birkenstocks to most Sunday Masses, but on cold days he finishes off this incredible look with a pair of nice floppy white sports socks. The women here all envy me like mad. They dream of their husbands dressing with such debonaire confidence. The men are too shy to imitate this cutting-edge American trend at present (Kiwi "tall poppy syndrome", you know), but I'm sure once we leave, the bolder ones will hop on the bandwagon. </div>
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The MC, our coworker James, teased Richard extensively and lovingly during his speeches, but left me untouched. Rich told me that James had said I was "too scary" to make fun of. I can't understand that. Neither could Fr. Michael. <i>His</i> speech (and his random comments during my speech and Richard's) made that quite clear. </div>
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It was an awesome night of many laughs and a fantastic feeling of community and love. Near the end, Fr. Michael made all present rise, cover their hearts and sing the American National Anthem. That was awesome. Especially since the only other time I have heard that song in the past two years there was something in it about the "twilight's last reaming" (Superbowl XLV) - so <i>technically</i> last night was the ONLY time I have really heard that song in two years. But then the Twinkies got passed around and I was <i>embarrassed</i> to be American (my goodness, there are <i>so many</i> FAR more delicious things I wish they would associate with America!). </div>
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Afterwards most of the youth went with Rich and our girls to light a beach bonfire under the full moon. Joseph and I went to bed........except that the doorbell rang (<i>twice) </i>between 9pm and 9:30. It wasn't part of the skits anymore. This is real life. Good luck to whoever inherits this house! We will be praying for you! </div>Kelly and Richhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05241339683549573107noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3229551685882851915.post-78216692743681443982012-05-03T01:51:00.001-07:002012-05-03T02:07:45.196-07:00goodbyes<br />
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Even though Rich and I have not perhaps explored as much of New Zealand as we would have liked (due to the three car-trip-resistant individuals who cohabit with us), nevertheless it has not escaped our attention that this country is Seriously Gorgeous. We've seen enough to take our breath away.<br />
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There are a spots which have become special to our little family, such as the nearby beaches (including one made entirely of shells!) Even though I am not a 'beach person,' I will lament living 9 hours inland in a few weeks - there is simply no easier, cheaper or <i>quieter</i> family outing. After barely a four minute drive, we can unload the kids at deserted shoreline and all three immediately become deeply absorbed in digging and building and hunting for shells and feathers and driftwood and stones. There's barely any talking - and certainly no bickering. I can plant myself in the sand and not move (heck, not even speak) for sixty to ninety minutes. What more could a pregnant mother ask for? <br />
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Yes, Bernadette bursts into tears if a dog or a "Jeep" appear on the horizon - and yes, inevitably Joseph's mouth and eyes will be <i>completely</i> full of sand - and yes, the car is an absolute sandbox when we arrive home - but everyone is really happy for <u>at least</u> one whole hour.<i> I'll have to look into creating a faux-beach in our backyard when we return home.</i><br />
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But it's not the beaches or the shells or the beloved pointy green hills to which it will <i>really</i> be hard to say goodbye. After all, there's just as much beauty waiting for us back home: red autumn leaves and snowy serenity and hot summer nights filled with fireflies. (Also Entenmann's. And my beloved house.)<br />
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The hard goodbyes will be to people. To Fr. Michael. To the youth. To the parish. Yesterday morning that reality came crashing down on me in a <i>crushing</i> way. I was leaving Mass and an older gentleman scurried to catch me. He drew a small object from his pocket and pressed it into my hand. It was a small metal locket he had been given as a gift over sixty years ago, on the day he made his First Holy Communion. Inside it contained a teeny Rosary. With great emotion, he asked me to give it to my girls. I was overwhelmed. I honestly didn't want to take it; it obviously meant so much to him. He insisted, telling me that he had no one else to pass it on to, and how much he has enjoyed seeing my girls in church each morning. I told him that I would keep it until Maria's First Communion. He smiled, and teared, and said that that was exactly what he hoped. I walked away feeling totally overwhelmed and deeply moved - and very, very sad. I have a feeling this is just the beginning of four very intense weeks.<br />
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The people of this parish have loved us. I don't mean that we've been "popular" or regarded as "wonderful" - I mean that they have <i>loved </i>us - as a verb. It's about <i>them. </i>THEY have loved us. They have shown us immense warmth and generosity, and authentic concern for our well-being. Two years ago, the first day we walked into the church, a young mother greeted me with tears in her eyes - she was so overjoyed to have us. Those first weeks, so many parishioners dropped off baking, cards, fruit, flowers, bicycles, gift cards and other tokens of welcome and openness. Shortly after we arrived, a younger widow, noticing that Rich had not brought a suit with him, gave him the suit that had belonged to her beloved late husband. When Joseph was born, it felt like he was the whole parish's new baby. When he was sick, that feeling was even more pronounced. There are still parishioners who lovingly pray for him every day, even though he is doing so well now. Yes, they have loved us - and it is a sign of who <i>they </i>are, not of what we are. I will of course miss all the astonishing natural beauty, but the beauty of the human spirit matches even the most breathtaking vistas. The hard goodbyes will be to people.<br />
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